Doing Anything...Before the Guest List
The
problem: You're
excited! You're ready to send out save-the-dates, book the ceremony site
and reception hall, choose the flowers
and you want to do it all now! Well hang on a second, because we're afraid
you're forgetting something. How many guests are coming?
The solution: It's not the most fun part of planning (and we'll be honest, it's one of the most likely to lead to a fight or a few of them), but you shouldn't make any wedding day decisions before you have your wedding guest list fairly firm. Why? Well, do you want to have a nonrefundable deposit down on that intimate location that fits 50 when your mother and your parents-in-law's additions bump your list up over 200?
Once everyone's in agreement, then you can move forward. What is next? Budget. Yes, you need to figure out what you can really afford to spend from start to finish.
Now it is time to meet with your planner. Be honest as to how many guests and what you’re budget is that you’re working with. Starting off right from the beginning will set the tone for a truly successful wedding day.
2. Freaking Out Because Someone Else Has Your (anything you’ve picked out)
The
problem: The current trend is to be totally
unique. You want something that no one
has done before and to be super creative. Additionally, you’re looking at Pinterest and
pulling different ideas and concepts from several different events and
weddings, but you want to know exactly how your elements will look before your
wedding day. When they are being custom
created just for you, there is no way to give you a clear picture until it has
been created, however, you can trust that each element will look amazing and completed
coordinate with your entire wedding theme and décor.
The solution: Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. Instead of worrying about someone else's wedding looking the similar as yours, think about how you can make the copied detail different and over 26 years in this industry, there has never been even two special occasions look the same even if the colors and tablecloths are the same colors for the two events.
And if you're really that worried about imitators, here's an idea - just keep mum. With all of the special occasions & décor items we create throughout the year, you’ll notice you never hear or see about them all until after the occasion has happened. Why? So the brides and clients we work with can have their special day. If you don't divulge every last big-day detail to your friends, family and especially your bride friends; you won't have to worry about them snatching them.
(3) Changing
your color scheme several times during your wedding planning ...
The problem: When you started planning your wedding,
you knew just what you wanted: egg plant and silver bridesmaid dresses, pale
pink peonies, and classic, engraved invites. Now that you've been hard at work
for a few months, you know just what colors you want for your wedding: Teal, pale blue, purple orchids, and funky,
bold invites. Too bad -- you're stuck with the wedding day colors and
styles you first chose ... or are you?
The solution: You should feel free to rethink, redo, and revamp any element of your wedding that you. It doesn’t mean that everything has to be pitched away. You'll be surprised how easy it is to make simple additions or subtractions with cake, floral arrangements, sometimes with linens and other items, and yes, you can change your whole style. Some décor elements will be started months in advance. If it's still relatively early in your planning process, don't be afraid to make the change.
Making a change sometimes means that you will need to make another huge investment or reneging on a bunch of contracts, losing your deposits. A good rule of thumb is that if you've already signed a contract or seen a proof, you will have to pay extra for any changes or additions you make. Remember, you're getting married to your husband, not your cake.
Some planners, such as A Memory Lane Event in Denver Colorado gives you a complete overview of your event or wedding so you can see every element at your special occasion, just because it is a part of your contract with us, up until 9-6 months before your wedding, it is possible to change anything, or all of your wedding. It may cost a little for revisions if special items have been purchased to be able to show you. We order special items when we know they’ll be on sale giving you the best price possible for that element.
(4) Trying to Drop Two Sizes Before Your Final Fitting
The problem: You've found the wedding dress of your
dreams and it was just the right price, but its not the perfect fit and you
tell yourself, I can drop twenty pounds before my wedding.
The solution: Crash-dieting and chaining yourself to the Treadmill is likely to end in disaster -- and a gown that doesn't fit creating un-needed drama. Eating right and working with a trainer will help the most to drop any unwanted weight, but be reasonable with yourself. Weddings are stressful and the whole process makes couples feel a little like salt water taffy and most couples both gain a little weight. So instead of losing more sleep than weight, find a gown you love and order it in your current size. If you can work on your body during your engagement, that's great -- go ahead toning up; not dropping 20 pounds, for instance. You're more likely to stick with a routine that doesn't require heroic willpower.
(5) Doing it All Yourself
The problem: We love seeing the clever projects that
couples come up with to make their weddings unique. But there's doing it yourself (DIY), and then
there's overdoing it yourself. After
all, there are benefits to DIY such as saving some money by not having to pay
someone to hand-tie 200 tiny ribbons. However, eight hours later when you’re ¾
of the way through and need a second swear jar realizing that there are still
thirty items on your do it yourself list and two months before your wedding
day. Sweetheart it’s past time to bring in
the big guns.
The solution: Rather than taking on too many projects, pick the couple that you're really in love with and put your resources (both mental and monetary) into working on those. For the others, do a little research and try to find a ready-made version that makes you happy or hire the professionals to do it for you.
(6) Overloading Your Mom's Big Day To-do List
We see this so often with DIY couples. Their moms look like they’ve gone through a war and don’t get to enjoy their child’s wedding day.
The problem: So you can't do it all
yourself -- fine -- but you've got to have someone you trust double-checking
with the bakery, the caterer and the florist, pressing your dress, setting out
favors, arranging the guest book table, the place cards and making sure the
band has the directions. Most DIY brides turn to Mom, their sister or their
maid of honor to make sure things go as planned on the big day. These folks are
usually happy to help in any way they can -- but hey, didn't they come here to
see you get married and celebrate with you?
The solution: No matter how worried you are, most wedding-day (and day-before) chores can be trusted to your planner, after all that is their job and allows your family, friends and guests to enjoy the day with you.
(7) Saving Your Place Cards for the Morning Of
The problem: It
might seem odd to start your seating plan with your save the dates but other
than taking up a little space on your computer, it’s not causing any harm and
will save you a ton of time and unneeded stress in the last month before your
wedding. The closer the wedding gets,
the busier you'll be, so making (and sticking to) your timeline is essential. After-all the caterer, bakery and the
reception hall needs your headcount at least a couple weeks before your wedding
day.
The solution: Worried you're jumping ahead on the wedding planning timeline? Don't be. The more that is done in advance, the better situation you’re in.
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