A
great way to personalize your wedding ceremony is to pen your own vows. These
tips will make it easy!
First
you will need permission from your officiant. While most officiants are pretty
laid back about the aspects of your ceremony, but there are still some that
want to use the fundamentals of a ceremony for the wedding, so it is always
good to check with your officiate first. Next you will need memories as well as
specific promises that you intend on keeping throughout the marriage. Once you
have gotten the OK from your officiate to write your own vows, jot down some of
the happiest and best memories you have with your spouse. Think in terms of
anecdotes instead of adjectives for a more vivid description. Avoid clichés
like; my spouse is my best friend or your soul mate. While these things may be
true for you and your spouse to be they are just as typical as if your
officiate had provided the more traditional language into your vows. I mean
that’s the whole point of writing your own wedding vows, right?
Next it might help to reflect on the most memorable events in your relationship, like the moment you relaxed that your fiancé was the one, or a time they really came through for you. It can always help to include a lighthearted memory, like a shared experience that makes both your and your spouse to be laugh.
Finally, it is always good to give a few promises that you intend to see through throughout the marriage. Being specific can be a saving grace for this, but also having a balance between a serious vow and a lighthearted one is of most importance. Once you have all of your ideas and promises write them all down and rehearse them in front of a friend or family member. Remember that this should all be able to be said in about a minute. While practicing and rehearsing are good, you don’t want to practice too much. When the day comes for you to say your vows to your friends, family and fiancé; remain true to your heart and speak from within.
Next it might help to reflect on the most memorable events in your relationship, like the moment you relaxed that your fiancé was the one, or a time they really came through for you. It can always help to include a lighthearted memory, like a shared experience that makes both your and your spouse to be laugh.
Finally, it is always good to give a few promises that you intend to see through throughout the marriage. Being specific can be a saving grace for this, but also having a balance between a serious vow and a lighthearted one is of most importance. Once you have all of your ideas and promises write them all down and rehearse them in front of a friend or family member. Remember that this should all be able to be said in about a minute. While practicing and rehearsing are good, you don’t want to practice too much. When the day comes for you to say your vows to your friends, family and fiancé; remain true to your heart and speak from within.
By: Megan Loberg, A Memory Lane Events
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