Thursday, June 24, 2010

Price Shopping for vendors

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We came across this post/ blog on Linked In & thought that our readers would be interested in reading it, so here it is.  We've kept the links to those who read the posts.  Of course you already know that our 19 almost 20 years of experience and the fact that everything we do for our clients is completely customized for them.  But here are some additional thoughts for those who do price shopping.  The best price, isn't always the best bang for your buck. You know the saying, "You get what you pay for...."

Brian Harris Great blog! 
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When deciding what you will charge for whatever it is that you are offering - especially when it comes to SERVICE....charge what you are worth, and charge a professional fee. Just because 20 other similar business are charging X amount, doesn't mean you have to charge that amount, especially if it's lower than you want to charge.

How much time have you invested in your business? Have you invested money into your business? Do you invest money into your business, or your own talents/knowledge so that you can give your clients/customers a better service? Do you do this full time? Do you WANT to do this full time? What makes you different? What's your USP (Unique Selling Proposition)??? Why should someone hire you over the other guys?

There are customers for all of us. Even if you are the more expensive of your kind in your area, that doesn't mean you won't still "sell" yourself / product.

Bottom line - convey your value, and they will pay whatever it takes to have you (if service related, like my line of work - Wedding Master of Ceremonies / DJ)

DO NOT undercut others in your area just to get the sale. That's slimy and brings down the status quo.

Stephanie & Jeff Padovani Brian, you are right on!

It's really tempting to blame the under-cutting amateur wedding vendors or brides who don't know any better, but it's really up to US to convey our value so that it's undeniable.

I can understand why some wedding vendors feel pressured to lower their prices to book the wedding, but it only makes this challenge worse for the entire wedding industry.
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Meghan Ely @Kostantina

Great questions and I actually asked Shayna to comment back. Here's what she had to say:

First, we all understand that the horrible economy has put extra pressure on everyone. And no one is saying if a great client comes along who you just have to work with that you can’t cut one particular person a deal (there is going to be a couple, or a wedding, or a facility who every one of us wants to work with that will be worth some kind of sacrifice for some greater end). But you can’t make bargain prices a sustainable business plan unless you’re willing to be Wal-Mart and work on volume – and frankly, very few of our businesses will sustain those kind of hours for that kind of margin for very long (not to mention it’s a terrible thing to brag about “I’m cheapest, so I work all the time”.

If you have created a sustainable business model during normal economic times, you should be able to do some or all of the following to get through the worst times:

- Diversify within your field: maybe you have to expand your geographic range, or learn something about multi-cultural weddings that you can apply that you didn’t before. I’m not saying co-opt other people’s roles, but where else could you be finding your own clients that you aren’t looking now.
- Partner up – use the slow times to go out and meet everybody. Meet your peers within your local area who offer services that are complimentary to your own. Meet people all over the world who do the same thing you do. Find out what kind of healthy strategies they are using to get by. Network like your job depends on it, because it just might.
- Be creative – if you need to appeal to a lower price point, then develop an appropriate service for that price point. Make a sales push on hourly consultations in blocks of hours (for example, charge $75 per hour, but with a 4 hour minimum) – make it an entry level way to attain the services of a professional like yourself. Then work your tail off during those hours to prove exactly how valuable you can be. These are good additions to base packages to boost income and demonstrate to clients how an investment with you is worth their money.


Just don’t give away your time and services (unless it’s a charitable donation of course). They are really worth something. If you truly cannot sustain a business during this economic period and still value yourself sufficiently, then maybe, at least temporarily, it’s time to admit that it’s not working out. Maybe while you’re waiting out the worst times you need to look into part-time employment. It would be a great opportunity to learn even a basic skill in some other part of the industry (wait tables as a banquet server, deliver for a flower shop, etc.).

Finally, if you’re not taking complete advantage of the free opportunities for marketing, then it’s way too early to shout “economy”. Are you blogging 2 – 3 times per week, minimum? Are you guest blogging regularly and at every opportunity? Are you making it easy for your peers and colleagues (especially venues) to refer you to the right customers by giving them all of the information they need to sound knowledgeable about your services? Are you continuing your education (doesn’t always require a big investment – lots of workshops available, and tons of great information online)? Are you reaching out at every opportunity you have to say “this is what I’m good at and this is why you need me?”

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If not, you have not yet begun to fight. Going “cheaper” is the easy way out – and an easy way to burn out.

Dina Eisenberg Meghan, thanks for sharing Shayna. I see what you mean- she's a sparkplug!

I agree with her that there are many ways to combat the economy that will ultimately grow your wedding business much faster when things turn around. So, to her wonderful list I'd add:

Recognize Your True Value
Just because something that you normally do is easy for you doesn't mean it's not valuable to your brides. For example, I was born with a calm voice. I didn't train for that but my clients tell me that talking with me helps them relax and feel less anxious. Some of that is my good advice, some my presence. What part of you are you overlooking when you consider your value? Don't know? Ask your family, friends and peers one question: Give me 3 words you'd use to describe me to someone? Now you have something very unique that can attract brides who are searching for just your kind of presence.

Tuesday, June 22, 2010

Who Pays for What?

Who Pays for What?

 Below are some of the more traditional guidelines that you can adopt or modify to suit your particular needs. The itemization also provides a check list of matters that may require attention in your wedding preparations. Historically, the bride and/or her family have assumed the majority of the wedding related expense. The more modern approach allows for division of costs between the couple and/or both sets of parents. Note: Usually, the attendants will pay for their attire. If not, the bride will assume the expense of her attendants and the groom for his.

BRIDE/BRIDE’S FAMILY

  • Engagement Party: Bride OR groom's family plans and hosts.
  • Wedding dress, headpiece and accessories.
  • Lingerie.
  • Invitations, personal notes and mailing expense.
  • Wedding programs.
  • Napkins/Matches/Printed items.
  • Guest book.
  • Groom’s wedding ring.
  • Groom’s gift.
  • Father of bride formal wear.
  • Bridesmaid gifts.
  • Bridesmaids' bouquets.
  • Bridal brunch.
  • Grandmother corsages.
  • Church fee.
  • Ceremony/Reception flowers.
  • Ceremony rentals. (arches, candelabras, chairs, etc.)
  • Wedding breakfast.
  • Reception hall & rentals.
  • Reception favors, cameras.
  • Catering.
  • Music - Ceremony & Reception.
  • Photographic and videographic expense.
  • Transportation for the wedding party.
  • Wedding consultant’s fee.
  • Accommodations for out-of-town bride’s attendants and guests.

GROOM/GROOM’S FAMILY
  • Engagement Party: Bride OR groom's family plans and hosts.
  • Bride’s rings.
  • Groom’s wedding attire.
  • Flowers for the bride’s bouquet, corsages for the mothers and grandmothers.
  • Groom's boutonniere.
  • Groomsmen & Usher's boutonnieres.
  • Father of groom formal wear.
  • Gloves/Ties/Ascots for attendants.
  • Gifts for the bride, best man, groomsmen and ushers.
  • Rehearsal dinner.
  • Marriage license.
  • Clergyman/Officiant Fee
  • Limousine for bride & groom.
  • Groom's cake.
  • Alcohol at reception.
  • Honeymoon.
  • Accommodations for out-of-town groomsmen, ushers and guests.
ATTENDANTS/USHERS/BRIDAL PARTY
  • Wedding gift for the couple.
  • Maid of Honor Gown. (Maid of Honor)
  • Bridesmaid's Gowns. (Bridesmaid's)
  • Bachelor-(ette) party. (Maid Honor & Bridesmaid's)
  • Bachelor party. (Best Man & Groomsmen)
  • Best Man Formal Wear. (Best Man)
  • Car decorations. (Best Man)
  • Groomsmen's Formal Wear. (Groomsmen)
  • Usher's Formal Wear. (Ushers)
  • Children's Formal Wear (Children's Parents)
  • Travel costs.

Now of course this is the traditional pricing structure.  Today, pretty much anything goes. However, some couples still like to be traditional.


In love of planning,

Jennifer Lane,
A Memory Lane event & Wedding, based in Denver Colo.

We plan & coordinate in Denver, all of Colorado, any U.S. or International Destination.


  • Are you planning an event or a wedding?
  • Are you stressed, confused &/or overwhelmed?
  • Do you have too little time to devote to your event or wedding?
  • Do you want to plan the event or wedding of your dreams?
  • Are you looking for a unique and custom event or wedding,designed around your personality, style, and budget?
  • Are you wanting to have the event or wedding of the year that will be the talk of the town for years to come?
  • Are you unsure of where to begin or how to pull it all together?

Imagine having your dazzling dream event or wedding, unparalleled in style with a quality...
I have great news for you! You don’t have to imagine this any longer, because the event or wedding that you having been dream about until now is absolutely within reach!   You can absolutely have the event or wedding that is uniquely yours, an event or wedding that is customized to your inspirations and desires right down to the very last detail, and an event or wedding that truly embodies your style and your personality.  We are here to help your inspirations become a reality!

I’m Jennifer Lane, of A Memory Lane Event & Wedding and I want to help you create the wedding you have dreamed of but never really knew if you could create it... we are going to have so much fun in the process!

Regardless of if you are interested in full service wedding planning, coordinating and design, wedding day management and consultations... we, meaning myself and team of 16 have several options to suit your needs perfectly.  Reduce your stress, free up your time and save yourself money by hiring a professional planner & coordinator who has the expertise and 19 years experience to show you how to have the wedding of your wildest dreams!

Visit our website for more information as to how A Memory Lane Event & Wedding can assist you in having the event or wedding of your dreams.  Complimentary initial consultations at night and on the weekends when you are available. 

Click here to visit our website  Click here to see pictures of our work.  Click here to read an interview with Jennifer Lane, Head event planner/coordinator & decor, floral designer at A Memory Lane Event.  Want to schedule a complimentary appointment? Email us here.

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You're engaged - What should you do first?

Make the Announcement

  • Inform parents & family first
  • Place your announcement in the newspaper, if you live in a small town.  If you live in a big city.  It's not necessary.
Together share your dreams for the day
Share ideas & your vision for your wedding day together.  Below are some starter points for your discussion

  1. small & simple, what we call Sweet & Simply Stated, of medium size and quality, which is what we call Afford-ably Elegant, or large or a real blow out party, which is what we call High Style Glam.  
  2. a local location or a destination such as another country or a beach
  3. Large wedding party or a single attendant
  4. Traditional vows or write your own
  5. What are the most important details that you want to have present in your day?

Your finance should be a part of this discussion, as it is their day too.  Your finance should also be a part of this following discussion.

Budget - Talk Money.

  1. Know what you have to spend before you start planning.  The bride's parents rarely pick up the full tab, so decide on your spending limit.  check with both sets of parents to find out if and what they are willing to contribute to your big day.
  2. Watch your guest list.  Wedding size determines where and how much the party will cost.  It is easy for the guest list to grow beyond your means.  (Her family, His family, family friends, work associates and the list goes on and on.)
  3. Create a notebook with a section for each area of your wedding.  Put your budgeted amount for that area at the top and keep deducting as you add services.  Suggested areas are listed below.
  • Ring(s)
  • Wedding Planner
  • Invitations
  • Ceremony site & officiate
  • Wedding attire
  • Flowers
  • Photography and Video-grapher
  • Music for both ceremony & reception
  • Reception venue
  • Reception meal & beverages
  • Bridal Party & parent gifts
Decision Time
Soon after you announce your engagement and a minimum of 9-12 months ahead of your target month for the wedding, the first major wedding decision needs to be made.  Select a wedding consultant. You will want to meet with each potential wedding consultant.  Make sure that the person or company who you will be working with shares your dream for your special day and is not trying to force you into whatever program they are trying to promote.  This person will be the most important partner you have in making your dreams for your wedding day come true, taking much of the stress of the wedding event off you freeing you to enjoy the day with your guest.  Your working relationship will be one of the biggest factors in your retaining peace of mind from the start of the planning until the last guest is gone, through through the return of your honeymoon.

Ceremony Site
If you're considering local locations, it is time to bring your dream and reality together.  If you are looking at an outdoor site, ensure the site has a contingency plan that works for you as regardless of the date, the weather is unpredictable.  If the site doesn't have a contingency plan, then your planner & coordinator should develop one that you're satisfied with.

If you're considering a destination wedding, you will want to consider the cost to ensure that everyone you want to be a part of your special day can afford to be there.  Regardless of the location you decide to go with, you will want to get your date on the site calendar as many of the most popular dates will be snapped up quickly.

Reception
Match the reception venue to the size and style of the reception you want.  You want to ensure that the location is large enough to comfortable fit not only the number of guests expected, but for reception activities that are an important part of your special occasion.  Your wedding planner & coordinator will be a great resource in providing these suggestions.  From quaint hotels, historic home, parks, or aquarium's you want the site that works for you & fits your style.  Allow time to visit your top options before making a final decision.

Thursday, June 10, 2010

What does a planner & coordinator do?

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based in Denver Colo. 
We plan & coordinate dazzling events & weddings in Denver, all of Colorado, any U.S. or International Destination of diamond quality for 19 years.   We can help you too.  No event or wedding is cookie cutter.  We want your fun personality & style to shine through every detail.
  • Are you planning an event or a wedding?
  • Are you stressed, confused &/or overwhelmed?
  • Do you have too little time to devote to your event or wedding?
  • Do you want to plan the event or wedding of your dreams?
  • Are you looking for a unique and custom event or wedding,designed around your personality, style, and budget?
  • Are you wanting to have the event or wedding of the year that will be the talk of the town for years to come?
  • Are you unsure of where to begin or how to pull it all together?

Imagine having your dazzling dream event or wedding, unparalleled in style with a quality...


Well, I have great news for you! You don’t have to imagine this any longer, because the event or wedding that you having been dream about is absolutely within reach!   You can absolutely have the event or wedding that is uniquely yours, an event or wedding that is customized to your inspirations and desires right down to the very last detail, and an event or wedding that truly embodies your style and your personality.  We are here to help your inspirations become a reality!

I’m Jennifer Lane, of A Memory Lane Event & Wedding and I want to help you create the wedding you have dreamed of but never really knew if you could create... we are going to have so much fun in the process!

Regardless of if you are interested in full service wedding planning, coordinating and design, wedding day management and consultations... we, meaning myself and team of 16 have several options to suit your needs perfectly.  Reduce your stress, free up your time and save yourself money by hiring a professional planner & coordinator who has the expertise and 19 years experience to show you how to have the wedding of your wildest dreams!

Visit our website for more information as to how A Memory Lane Event & Wedding can assist you in having the event or wedding of your dreams.  Complimentary initial consultations at night and on the weekends when you are available. 

Click here to visit our website  Click here to see pictures of our work.  Click here to read an interview with Jennifer Lane, Head event planner/coordinator & decor, floral designer at A Memory Lane Event.  Want to schedule a complimentary appointment? Email us here.

Religion, Tradition, and the wedding Guest

If you’re worried about attending a ceremony in a different religion or culture than your own, don’t worry. You will most likely not being the only “outsider” there, and the primary thing the bride and broom will care about is your presence. These days, a religious wedding ceremony is generally open for those of other faiths to attend, and you can participate in as much or as little as you choose. Religious leaders are accustomed to the fact that there will be people of many faiths attending; thus they generally tend to explain what is happening, and what the congregation is expected to do. If you’re worried that your own religion won’t approve of you attending another worship service, speak with your religious leader. In the event it’s not appropriate for you, you can probably skip the ceremony and attend only the reception.

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Here’s a quick rundown of things guests might encounter at a religious wedding:    

Catholic: Most weddings include communion, which is offered only to those who have received their First Holy Communion in the Catholic Church. If you aren’t Catholic, stand so that any Catholics in your row may pass, then sit back down and wait quietly.

Jewish:The wedding service is often in Hebrew, but if you don’t understand the language, try to enjoy the spirit, music, and company around you. Men, no matter what their faith, are generally expected to wear skull caps or yarmulkes inside the synagogue. You’ll most likely find them being given out just outside of the doors.

Muslim:Most Muslims do not have a public ceremony, only a public reception.

Mormon: Most Mormon wedding ceremonies are restricted to only practicing Mormons. Don’t be offended if you aren’t invited to the ceremony.


To add to your comfort level, why not ask the bride and groom to give you a brief outline of what to expect on the day of the wedding. Or, you can read these links for general overviews.

Receiving Line....To Have or Not to Have?


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A receiving line of old, usually happened after the ceremony but before the reception. Bride, Groom and wedding party would make a line and all the guests would go down the line to congratulate the bride, groom and bridal party. Some brides and grooms would worry about the line taking up too much time.
If you have a receiving line after the ceremony, check with your officiant, there could be restrictions where the line could form. 

Many of today's weddings opt not to have a receiving line but to use the time during the cocktail hour or after dinner to walk around and great family and guests. Since the bride and groom are the first to receive dinner, they are the first finished. Going around the room to each table is more informal and relaxed way to talk with guests. Take your photographer with you to capture each table with you and the groom. (Guests have more to say when there is not a line of people waiting behind them.)

Friday, June 4, 2010

Event & Wedding Guest Etiquette

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When your friends or family invite you to a party or invite you to come to their wedding, you know that there are all kinds of etiquette rules that govern their behavior. But did you know there are rules for event & wedding guests too? To ensure that you don't inadvertently commit a faux pas or do anything mistaken at a loved one's event or wedding, follow these simple rules. 

Don't be late! If an invitation says that the festivities will begin at 5, be sure to arrive there by 4:45 so as to give yourself time to find a seat and get settled, especially if the special occasion is a wedding. You wouldn't want to interrupt the processional.

If it is a wedding AVOID taking photographs during the ceremony. Leave that to the professionals and respect the sanctity of the ritual in front of you.

You don't need to bring a gift with you to the wedding. In fact, you have up until a year after the wedding to give a gift.  If you are unable to attend the wedding, it is customary to still send a wedding gift.

Don't bring a date unless your invitation specifically says their name or "+ Guest".  Remember that the cost for each person attending an event or wedding is generally high, so bringing unexpected guests is very impolite. This includes your children or other relatives!

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Many ceremonies have parts where the congregation alternately stands and sits. The program or officiant may tell you when to do so; if not, follow the lead of others around you. If you are physically unable to stand, remain quietly seated.

RSVP promptly. The couple will be making many decisions based on the number of people who will be there. Additionally, if you must cancel after you have accepted, do so as soon as possible.

While a wedding is a time to enjoy yourself, no one appreciates a drunk guest embarrassing themselves. Drink alcohol in moderation.

Above all, enjoy yourself, and tell the happy couple that you are so pleased for them.

Receiving Line....To Have or Not to Have?

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A receiving line of old, usually happened after the ceremony but before the reception. Bride, Groom and wedding party would make a line and all the guests would go down the line to congratulate the bride, groom and bridal party. Some brides and grooms would worry about the line taking up too much time.
If you have a receiving line after the ceremony, check with your officiant, there could be restrictions where the line could form. Many of today's weddings opt not to have a receiving line but to use the time during the cocktail hour or after dinner to walk around and great family and guests. Since the bride and groom are the first to receive dinner, they are the first finished. Going around the room to each table is more informal and relaxed way to talk with guests. Take your photographer with you to capture each table with you and the groom. (Guests have more to say when there is not a line of people waiting behind them.)

Religion, Tradition, and the wedding Guest

If you’re worried about attending a ceremony in a different religion or culture than your own, don’t worry. You will most likely not being the only “outsider” there, and the primary thing the bride and broom will care about is your presence. These days, a religious wedding ceremony is generally open for those of other faiths to attend, and you can participate in as much or as little as you choose. Religious leaders are accustomed to the fact that there will be people of many faiths attending; thus they generally tend to explain what is happening, and what the congregation is expected to do. If you’re worried that your own religion won’t approve of you attending another worship service, speak with your religious leader. In the event it’s not appropriate for you, you can probably skip the ceremony and attend only the reception.

Here’s a quick rundown of things guests might encounter at a religious wedding:

Catholic: Most weddings include communion, which is offered only to those who have received their First Holy Communion in the Catholic Church. If you aren’t Catholic, stand so that any Catholics in your row may pass, then sit back down and wait quietly.

Jewish:The wedding service is often in Hebrew, but if you don’t understand the language, try to enjoy the spirit, music, and company around you. Men, no matter what their faith, are generally expected to wear skull caps or yarmulkes inside the synagogue. You’ll most likely find them being given out just outside of the doors.
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Muslim:Most Muslims do not have a public ceremony, only a public reception.

Mormon: Most Mormon wedding ceremonies are restricted to only practicing Mormons. Don’t be offended if you aren’t invited to the ceremony.

To add to your comfort level, why not ask the bride and groom to give you a brief outline of what to expect on the day of the wedding. Or, you can read these links for general overviews.